10 commandments for dating
With this in mind, I, single until the ripe old age of 36, could not help but apply these great commands to the often crazy and confusing world of dating. Talk to Him, listen to Him, and study His teachings.
Once I did, I realized that there's no better material out there anywhere than what you find in Exodus 20. "You shall have no other gods before me."Applied to the world of the opposite sex, my single sisters, here's a paraphrase for you: Don't make Mr. In case you don't know, you're a worshipping creature. ll put something that looks like Him-men were created in His image, after all-on the throne.
This is very disrespectful, not to mention hurtful. Give that to someone else, and you've ripped off your future relationship. (Start by reading 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 in a few different translations, and you'll get the picture.) Not only is smoochy-smoochy meant to glue those involved-thus ripping painfully when used for the short-term-but outside of marriage it is extreme defiance of who God is and very, very, very selfish.
Now, I could stop right here, but since we're all women reading this, I need to say something about the stupidity of letting a man into your body, emotions, and soul when there is no vow to go with it.
Ask yourself why he would be blessed to spend lots of time, maybe even the rest of his life on earth, with you. What are the payoffs of the date or the relationship? Or am I using the guy in my life to numb my pain and make me feel OK because (a) he desperately needs me, (b) he's very handsome (and thus of great worth, so I must be too), or (c) he's all I could find? This could be the most significant realization of your life. "You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God."This third command is all about taking responsibility for your choices and owning your life. What is certain is that he has in some way been shut down or emasculated, and sooner or later he'll resent you (however unfairly) for it.
This is one of the easiest ways to avoid making a savior out of him. It's all about being honest with yourself and those you date instead of hiding behind excuses? So if you feel God leading you to date someone, hey, explore the hard evidence and your Bible. You don't ever want to say "God led me" based on a few fuzzy-wuzzy feelings. You are responsible for your choices, and feelings can deceive, romantic feelings especially. Don't use the God-excuse to substantiate your dating choices.4. The bottom line here is not whether or not men are capable of finding you-they are. "Honor your father and your mother."There are a million believable reasons for why you may want to skip this fifth commandment.
Ultimately, if we've been abused, we're going to have to relearn what is OK and what is not.
There is no excuse big enough to choose a relationship that is abusive.
God has us resting the last day of every week, Saturday-Sabbath-so we can remember that He's the creator, the one who makes stuff happen. Yes, ultimately the choice of who you marry is yours. And if they are not safe people, then I recommend praying for a godly couple to stand in for them.In the arena of love, this practice is alive and kicking. Right comes along, unconditional acceptance will be something you're good at.7.Instead of allowing those who jive best with us to naturally find their way into our lives, we often strive and posture to "win" a man's heart, only to then try recreating him into someone he isn't to suit who we actually are. "You shall not commit adultery."I'm sure you'd agree that the married me kissing some other Mr. Well, what about me kissing an alternate guy before my wedding? And what about me kissing an alternate guy before meeting my husband? I would propose to you that deep bonding with someone other than your husband-even if he is still in the future-is having an affair, even cheating on the man of your dreams. We have only one heart and one body to give in marriage. The bottom line is that God says we sin against Him when we act out sexually when not married.There comes a time in our lives when who we are and what kind of relationship we're in is ours to choose. Yes, and for those of us who were abandoned, the truth is that only Dad and God can fill that hole.Even if you married one perfect Adam before the fall, he'd not be able to fill that hole meant for somebody else. It also means that drooling over Brad Pitt or fantasizing about that cute guy at work are both acts of unfaithfulness. Right, and focusing on the rest of the Mr.'s in a gaga sort of way only hurts you and yours.